Radical hospitality in the DMV
BmoreNM
Radically hospitable gatherings for non-monogamous adults.
What is this?
A hosted social container for expansive definitions of love.
BmoreNM is a convening organization for people who share expansive definitions of love. We are not an event series or a party brand or a dating pool; we are a hosted social container, built on consent, care, and intentional presence.
The organization was born in 2023 out of the hosts' realization that what they desired most was not another digital community, dating app, or once-a-year event. They wanted a real, consistent, in-the-flesh platform to invite others to build the warmth of a shared community. BmoreNM is the manifestation of that desire, and regularly hosts events for people practicing non-monogamy in the DMV.
Who is this for?
Adults practicing consensual non-monogamy.
Our events are designed to build in-person community for adults who are practicing non-monogamy. This includes polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, and other consensual non-monogamous structures.
While curiosity is natural, our gatherings assume a shared respect for non-monogamy as a valid and intentional way of relating. For us, this is not a phase, experiment, or workaround for unmet needs. It is who we are.
Some events may be explicitly beginner-friendly or educational. These will be clearly labeled. Most gatherings assume a baseline familiarity with consent culture, communication practices, and personal responsibility.
How do I join?
Just show up.
As part of our practice of radical inclusion, we welcome people of all orientations, identities, and relationship practices who are willing to engage with care, consent, and respect for our shared norms. We understand that everyone lives differently, and seek to open our doors and hearts to as many people as possible.
Radical hospitality
Community becomes possible when people are welcomed on purpose.
Radical hospitality is a value-oriented philosophy, long practiced as a way of making outsiders feel welcome and integral to a community. It begins from a few simple beliefs:
- You have gifts: time, care, attention, presence.
- Others are seeking safety, connection, and dignity.
- Hospitality offers those gifts in ways that build belonging.
- Radical hospitality challenges exclusion, isolation, and transactional norms.
What to expect
Low-cost public events with welcome built in.
Our public events try to be low cost, if not free. If we ask you to buy a ticket, it is usually to cover renting a space or funding an activity. We try to get good group deals as much as possible.
We try to welcome people upon arrival by greeting you and learning your name. We also explicitly ask members to introduce themselves to anyone they do not recognize, and to seek out and invite others in so that no one feels excluded.
Most events have a social portion and some kind of activity, whether that is eating, an outing, or a discussion. This will be advertised as part of the event.
Event calendar
Find the next BmoreNM gathering.
Can I host an event?
Yes. BmoreNM can help gather the people.
We try to be an event calendar for our people as much as event organizers. If you would like to host an event and have us help organize or get the word out, let us know at @bmore_hospitable on Instagram.
Where it comes from
Inspired by hospitality, activism, and radical inclusion.
We first became acquainted with radical hospitality through reading about Yuri Kochiyama, who practiced it as part of her activism for racial equality. Her Harlem home hosted regular gatherings where people from the community were invited to join the family for dinner, share their stories, and make connections across communities.
Our conviction was deepened by engagement with the local Burning Man community, where radical inclusion is the first principle. It is also, at least partially, a religious concept; many Christian thinkers advocate for radical hospitality as a way of caring for others and the world. We are not part of any organized religion, but we appreciate that religion is how some people express love for their community.